Monthly Archives: June, 2009
Tamara Lynn Hill – September 28, 1964 to June 15, 2009
Tamara, my ever beloved wife.
My spirit, my inspiration and my strength. It was 12 years ago, a sunny Saturday afternoon when we had our first glance at a book store in San Francisco. I never thought that very first moment we had would start a very fruitful relationship between you and me. You caught my attention when you were looking for a book and asking me if I’d read it.. At first, your kind smile melted my heart. I knew at that very moment I saw an angel sent by God; an angel who would watch over me and take care of me for the rest of my life.
Tamara your name is music to my ears. Tamara your name I can’t get out of my head. Tamara I love you!
Tamara died of massive organ failure from late stage alcoholism last night, Monday, June 15, 2009 at 9:47PM. She was 44 years old. For the past 7 years as she struggled with alcoholism, When I met Tamara she was a beautiful blond who stood 5″6″ and weighed 125 lbs. When she passed away, she weighed 80 pounds. Tamara maintained her strength and faith. And because of this illness Tamara risked not to have a child from me. I understand how she felt on having our own child since Tamara was under medication, very ill, and we did not want the child to suffer from any complications. I’m still very proud of Tamara that she made a brave decision about this.
Tamara was a tough woman. I never heard Tamara complain in spite of pain and danger. Tamara was still able to comfort friends and family through her loving smiles and compassionate bright ideas. Tamara opened many hearts and souls, including mine. Tamara left a lot of loving memories on my heart that I will hold and remember forever.
Every Valentine’s day, I made it a point that Tamara always received flowers and a gift from me. I sent it either to her office or to the house. I remember the first time I sent her one, Tamara was expecting it to arrive at her office, and Tamara went home disappointed. To her surprise when Tamara got home there was a bunch of flowers and a big bear waiting for her. Tamara flooded me with Thank You’s when I arrived home. I wanted Tamara to be very happy every hearts day. Tamara you are now flooded with your favorite flowers, this is not just coming from me but from all the people who are dear to you.
Whenever I was away for a business trip, Tamara could not stand being alone. I heard her cry every night when I called her. Tamara missed me a lot and it was hard for her to let a day pass without me beside her. And because of this, I decided never to go anywhere without her. In December 2004, our marriage was amicably ended. Tamara knew that we could not go on as a couple as she struggled with alcoholism and refused to get treatment.. She moved to Portland to be with her sister and mother. She continued to struggle with alcoholism. And she continued to love me. We were the very best of friends. She was my biggest fan and was so happy when I appeared on Mythbusters two years ago. Shortly, after that TV appearance I went to visit Tamara for one last attempt to get her into a treatment program. I brought with me a professional interventionist and we failed because Tamara did not want to stop drinking. She said, “Dave, I know I have to, but I can’t. You know that unless a person wants to change, no one can help them. It is too late for me. So, please forgive me.” In a tearful, gut-wrenching Gestalt filled day of resolving the unfinished business between us, I forgave her and she forgave me for not being able to help her. It was a very healing day for both of us. She asked me to take the wisdom of her addiction to help other people with my hypnotherapy practice and in that way, she would always be with me in helping people. We both knew she would not be alive much longer and so we spent at least a day every week talking on the phone.
What I would like you to remember about Tamara is: Tamara was a great conversationalist; Tamara was a great cook; Tamara was a great poet; Tamara was a great writer; Tamara loved books; Tamara was a great athlete – she was a PADI certified divemaster, a triathlete, a basketball player, a baseball player; Tamara was the best sound person I ever had for my Hypnosis Show; Tamara was kind, gentle, caring, and loving. Tamara loved her two cats – Satchel and Lefty.
Tamara was able to serve me well and at the same time Tamara was able to meet her favorite cartoon character Mickey Mouse in person on our honeymoon at Disneyland. And now in this time, I miss her so much.
Tamara prepared me in this life journey to be strong and mature. We can’t explain why things happen. The only thing I’m holding to is the teaching that Spirit causes all things to work together and causes all good to those who love. Tamara’s illness has a reason. If we are willing to learn from what happens to us, then we must release our resistance to the event and be willing to bear the vision before us as only it can teach us — show us — why what has transpired has gone the way it has.
Today we mourn for Tamara’s loss. However, we rejoice for having her in our life, my loving Tamara. We will be seeing each other soon. Love you so much.
The last time I spoke to her was two weeks ago. She seemed to know the end was near and she asked me to share a poem by Emily Dickinson, as she was one of Tamara’s favorite poets.
Asleep by Emily Dickinson
As far from pity as complaint,
As cool to speech as stone,
As numb to revelation
As if my trade were bone.
As far from time as history,
As near yourself to-day
As children to the rainbow’s scarf,
Or sunset’s yellow play
To eyelids in the sepulchre.
How still the dancer lies,
While color’s revelations break,
And blaze the butterflies!
Tamara, I love you and I will celebrate your life with our many happy memories.
Dr. Dave Hill, DCH
“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.”
By Daily Telegraph Reporter
Published: 3:15PM BST 07 Jun 2009
Professor David Spiegel, of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences at Stanford University, wants the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (Nice) to sanction sweeping changes.
He will tell the Royal Society of Medicine on Monday that Nice should add hypnotherapy to its list of approved therapeutic techniques for the treatment of conditions ranging from allergies and high blood pressure to the pain associated with cancer treatment and bone marrow transplantation.
Nice has already approved the technique for the treatment of irritable bowel syndrome.
“It is time for hypnosis to work its way into the mainstream of British medicine,” says Professor Spiegel.
“There is solid science behind what sounds like mysticism and we need to get that message across to the bodies that influence this area.
“Hypnosis has no negative side-effects. It makes operations quicker, as the patient is able to talk to the surgeon as the operation proceeds, and it is cheaper than conventional pain relief. Since it does not interfere with the workings of the body, the patient recovers faster, too.
“It is also extremely powerful as a means of pain relief. Hypnosis has been accepted and rejected because people are nervous of it. They think it’s either too powerful or not powerful enough, but, although the public are sceptical, the hardest part of the procedure is getting other doctors to accept it.”
Last year, the Daily Telegraph reported how a pensioner had knee surgery using just hypnosis to control the pain.
Trained hypnotist Bernadine Coady, 67, was wide awake for the one-hour operation, which is usually performed under a general anaesthetic.
A spokesman for the National Council for Hypnotherapy said of her case that the technique has been used for centuries for pain relief.
He added: “It is used often other countries, for example Belgium, as an alternative to anaesthetics and patients report that it is very successful, that they feel no pain during their operations.”
The theory behind medical hypnosis is that the body’s brain and nervous system cannot always distinguish an imagined situation from a real occurrence. As a result the brain can act on any image or verbal suggestion as if it were reality.
Hypnosis puts patients into a state of deep relaxation that is very susceptible to imagery; the more vivid this imagery, the greater the effect on the body.
Nice said it would welcome submissions for hypnotherapy to be considered as an approved therapeutic technique on the NHS if it could be cost-effective and consistent delivery could be guaranteed.
But Professor Steve Field, who chairs the Royal College of General Practitioners, said he was sceptical as to whether hypnotherapy could meet these standards.
“It is a useful tool used by some GPs and patients for relaxation, but I don’t think it is something that we should support being rolled out to all medical students and all doctors,” he said.
“We can’t call on the NHS to support it without there being a firm medical and economic basis, and I’m not convinced those have been proved to exist.”
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Dr. Dave Hill, DCH
“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” -Walt Disney
Learning should be a lifelong process for everyone. The potential rewards of continuously learning new things cannot be overstated. Whether learning new skills for the job, or studying a topic of personal interest, everyone can benefit from continuing their education.
There are many factors that may impede the learning process. The two most important factors are low self-esteem and lack of motivation. Poor study habits, poor memory, lack of reward, poor nutrition, and even medication can also adversely affect an individual’s ability to learn new things. Fortunately, hypnotherapy can help with all of these things.
Motivation is emotional, and it comes from within. Knowing the benefits of success is not enough. Feeling a strong desire to acquire those benefits is essential. If too many desires compete for the individual’s time and attention, he or she may not be able to focus. The desires can lose their strength, and less will be accomplished. The individual should set priorities. Once that is accomplished, hypnotherapy can reinforce those priorities and strengthen focus.
Self-esteem is built up with a series of successes and rewards. Setting interim goals as steps to achieving an ultimate goal can help. Each time a goal is achieved, the individual should recognize their success and reward themselves. Hypnotherapy can help establish this type of pattern in a person’s attitude.
Good study habits include time management and elimination of distractions. Bad time management can drain a person’s energy and emotions. Good time management consists of organizing the work; breaking large jobs into smaller, easily accomplished tasks. Distractions can be eliminated by selecting a location that is devoted exclusively to study. Going there only to study, and leaving when concentration becomes difficult or when done studying for the day. The location should be as free from distraction as possible, that is, no TV or radio, and no family and friends running in and out every few minutes.
People use three types of memory when learning: Sensory Memory, Motor Skill Memory, and Concept Memory. Sensory Memory deals with sights, scents, sounds, tastes, and touches. Motor Skill Memory deals with movement and coordination such as riding a bicycle, typing, or dancing. Concept Memory deals with words and ideas. Written material must be meaningful and organized. A good way to study is to read broad concepts first, then narrow in and focus on the specifics. This helps with comprehension, and also helps to avoid reading irrelevant material.
Poor nutrition and medications pose a different problem. Lack of protein in a diet may sometimes cause concentration and retention problems. Antihistamines and many other medications can cause drowsiness, also making concentration difficult. some medications even block the neural pathways in the brain. In these cases a physician must be consulted before beginning a program of hypnotherapy.
But for most people hypnotherapy can provide insight, guidance, and direction to establish personal learning goals, boost self-esteem, and create motivation, which result in enhanced learning and improved memory.
Dr. Dave Hill, DCH
“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” -Walt Disney